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The Power of Positivity

Sometimes staying positive can sometimes feel like an impossible task. In truth, everyone has moments when they feel as though things are piling on top of them, but this is natural (as long as it is temporary!) Sometimes all it takes to feel brighter is a burst of fresh air, half an hour spent chatting with a friend or treating yourself to a waffle (especially that last option!) A problem shared really is a problem halved, however cliché it may sound.

A positive mindset is your best friend. As Buddha said, the mind is everything – what you think you become. According to this logic, aspiring to be successful can only bring the motivation to achieve those goals of yours. With a positive frame of mind , each negative thing can be seen as a chance to aspire to be better, to improve and to grow.

Words to live by:

  • Making mistakes can be a GOOD thing – you’re only human! You can only learn from them and improve the next time around.
  • Aim for progress, not perfection (the latter is unattainable)
  • Don’t make a mountain out of a molehill!
  • Take each day as it comes – one step at a time
  • Be ambitious, follow your goals and take every opportunity available to you
  • Find at least one good thing about each day (I find that writing this down every day is so rewarding when you can look back and be thankful for at least one small thing for every day of the week. It’s also a perfect way to boost your mood when you reflect on little memories which have made you happy over the course of a term)

We always hear how important it is to be physically well, to eat balanced meals and to make time for physical activity, but rarely is the importance of one’s mindset given enough recognition. Let’s be inspired by the wise words of Winston Churchill: ‘The positive thinker sees the invisible, feels the intangible and achieves the impossible.’

With the end of term approaching, it can sometimes feel as though deadlines are arriving more quickly than you can say the word Klute. With so much going on, it’s important to achieve that oh-so idealistic balance between work and play, however you choose to take time out. It’s easy enough to want to spend every waking moment stressing over the conclusion of your essay or the like, but trust me on this one, it’s counterproductive.

Exploring Durham, especially by night, is one of my personal favourite ways to destress and to just appreciate the charm of this little city. It’s a pretty amazing place in which to live and study!

I want to make a shoutout here to Student Welfare as well as the Senior Welfare staff here at Durham because they really do everything they can to help, however trivial you may think your problem is. Speaking from experience, these guys really help alleviate the stress you may be experiencing. Sometimes just speaking your worries aloud is a remedy in itself – keeping things bottled up is the worst thing you can do.

If you’re ever struggling to stay positive, look at how far you’ve come, rather than how far you have left to go.  Stay positive, work hard and make it happen.

Kathryn Bowman

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